About two years ago, I stumbled upon a website that had a number of articles about ‘tying heartstrings’ with your child. This was totally new to me and I thought that it was a rather intriguing idea. In those two years, I have read numerous articles and books on the topic of claiming the heart of your children.
The first question most have is: “what does that mean?” Well, basically, it means that your child loves you and knows, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you truly have their best interest at heart, in all you do. I really think that having the heart of your child is the key to teaching them about the Lord and helping them to grow up into godly adults.
I wish I could really talk in-depth about this subject, but there isn’t time in this short blog *smile*, however, I am going to share a few keys on how to claim your child’s heart. I am not expert on this, however, I have been activiely working to claim the heart of each child that the Lord has blessed me with.
The first key is QUANTITY TIME. Yes, we have all heard for the last few years that quantity time doesn’t matter, only quality time. I must say that this advice is 100% false and it is unbiblical. If we want the hearts of our children, then we must spend time with them, otherwise, how are we going to really know them and show them our love? Think about how you invest your time. If you have a hobby that you really enjoy, do you make it a priority each week to find time for that? Well, shouldn’t your children be one of your highest priorities?
So, in todays busy world, just how do you find so much time to spend with your children? I think that the first way is to homeschool. If you are sending your children away from home for 6-8 hours each day, then who do you think will know your child (and have a greater potential to ‘have their heart)? The next way is to severely limit outside activities. This serves two purposes: it gives your child more time with you and it limits the amount of negative exposure that the child may have with peers (yes, it is possible for peers to have the heart of your child… that is why ‘peer pressure’ has such a strong pull). The last way is to worship the Lord with your children. This would include family worship at home each day as well as corporate worship within the church (with your children sitting with you and not sitting with friends or off in the nursery or children’s church).
And yes, the quality of your time does matter. Use the time you have with them to teach them, train them, love them and laugh with them.
I find that the more time my children spend with me, and the less time they spend away from home, the better our relationship is. My children are more open to conversation and they are more likely to be obedient. Also, I *really* enjoy spending time with my children. I really feel like a part of me is missing if one of them is not with me. I enjoy their company and I tell them so.
Our children ARE the future. They will be the ones who will lead the country and also be responsible for leading others to Christ. We need to invest as much time into their lives as we can, as the result will have a great payoff.
I see so many children, who just want to be loved, and it breaks my heart that they have to go elsewhere to look for this love as it should be freely provided by their parents.
If you are interested in learning more about this subject, one of my favorites books is “Keeping the Hearts of Our Children” by Steven and Terri Maxwell (yes, I am a big fan of the Maxwell’s – LOL – and I really like the fact that they have such godly adult children who are the fruit of their parents upbringing). They present so much information in a concise and easy to understand manner. They also point out many other issues that can prevent parent from claiming and keeping the heart of their child.
Now, go love on those precious ones!!!!
Blessings to you,