Help: How DO you nurse discreetly?

The kids have been keeping me busy with sickness and then recovery (which means that I am recovering from the mess from when they were sick – LOL).

I have seen a couple of posts about nursing lately and so I have some questions for any of the ladies out there who are reading this – I NEED your help.

How do you nurse discreetly? What kind to nursing top do you wear? Do you use a sling of some sort? Can you nurse and multi task at the same time (i.e. grocery shop, eat, sit in church service).

Josiah is 6 months and still exclusively nursed. He nurses every three hours (but sleeps 8-10 hours at night). He is very wiggly and LOVES to look around. He hates having a blanket on his head.

My next question is HOW did you learn to nurse discreetly? Did you just ‘dive in’ or did you nurse while doing housework or something?

I feel like I could use my time more productively if I could LEARN to nurse discreetly. I miss church service a lot b/c I am sitting in the nursing room, I get 1-2 hours of time to shop b/f it’s time to nurse (and then I sit in the car for 30-40 minutes before I can finish my shopping).

Is there a “Nursing for Dummies” book – LOL. I nursed Fisher for a year but now with three kids, I feel like there is less time to get things done. I would love ANY suggestion that you may have for me – even it seems like ‘common sense’, it may not be common sense to me – LOL.


11 thoughts on “Help: How DO you nurse discreetly?

  1. Unfortunately I just missed out on a lot. I have two. The first I nursed until 15 months, and the second is 15 months and he still gets 1/2 his food from nursing. Both of them were colicky finicky eaters–especially at first. Neither would tolerate any sort of covering over them. The one I am nursing now will only do so in a quiet dark room. I almost felt like a heathen missing so many church services. Yes, I could feel the drain on me spiritually. Nothing could be done about it though. Especially with the first, she’d nurse for 20sec. scream, nurse for 20sec. scream etc.
    Sorry–really no help at all. Just grin and bear it and remember the verse…”This too shall pass…” ๐Ÿ˜›


  2. I was am a full time working mother. i did nurse for the first 11 months, however i had to pump everyday at work. i got used to the pump early because i had to have surgery within the first few weeks of my daughters life. so i guess there were few times that i had to nurse in public. i was able to bring breast milk with me.
    The only bit of advice i can think is that to be discreet act like nothing is happening. Good luck with that though. I loved the time that i did have to nurse, and nights and on weekends, and would be totally goo goo gaw gaw watching or talking to my daughter most of the time i was nursing. But i think that is the best all around way to not get people attention is to act like there is nothing to see.


  3. Right now, my 8 month old is about 75% breastfed, 25% solid food. With my first, I never bresastfed in public, the idea to me was horrifying ๐Ÿ˜ฎ . With my latest blessing, I am more comfortable and have no problem with public breastfeeding. I wear a lot of buttoned down blouses or dresses and only unbutton just enough buttons to get baby attached and I am set.
    Because I keep the upper and bottom buttons all buttoned and just undo what I need in the middle, it ends up being very discreet. When baby is attached and eating I just carefully arrange everything so nothing is showing.
    I have trouble breastfeeding and doing other tasks, like housework or something. I’m rather busty and for that reason it’s just too hard. I agree with cat1james234, just act like nothing strange is happening. In essence, there is nothing wrong or strange about it. You’re just feeding your baby ๐Ÿ˜€


  4. Nursing discreetly gets easier as time goes by, as you do it more frequently and as you have more children.
    With my oldest child, I found it very difficult. I did it, but it was awkward and tiresome, right up until he was about a year old. After that it became a little easier as he got older and was able to understand instruction such as: “Do not lift Mama’s shirt!”
    I have four children ranging in age from 17 to 7 and all were exclusively breastfed for anywhere between 18 months and 4 years. Each time was easier.
    When you know you will have to nurse in public, plan accordingly. Wear clothes that are comfortable (not ugly), and easy to move. Sometimes buttons down the front can help, but they are not necessary. Use a blanket or something similar to get “set up”, until your confidence and abilities have grown. My husband used to help me with this: he would hold the blanket over baby and my shoulder while I lifted my shirt and let baby latch on. Once all was established, I would position the fabric of my clothing to conceal my breast and he would remove the blanket. Finishing nursing is not usually a problem, because you will be able to tell when baby is about to stop and pull your shirt down. Then pull the blanket over your shoulder to adjust your bra etc.
    Keep practicing by yourself at home for the times hubby won’t be with you, and you will have it do


  5. Me again!
    What I wanted to finish saying was: Keep practicing and you will have it down in no time!
    As for doing other things:
    I had some difficulty doing other things with my first baby, and then it got somewhat easier with my second. By the time my third came along, I had no choice! I am fairly big chested (38 DD) and so it was not easy. But with practice – and sheer determination because of necessity – I was able to nurse while sewing, cooking and walking from one room to the next to see to other children etc. Of course the easy things are things like nursing baby while reading to older children, nursing while on the phone or writing etc……….. Again, all these things take practice.
    Something that made it possible for me to cook while nursing was to use a long cover up such as those worn by African woman. The baby is tied sling-syle to your body and latched on to your breast. A rolled up washcloth etc. can be used to keep your breast comfortable and your nipple from slipping (ouch!). The cloth covers the babys body (good protection in front of the stove) and holds them close to you, leaving both hands free to do what needs to be done.
    Good luck with this. Don’t ever feel inadequate, just practice,practice,practice. And thank God for the wonderful abilities He has given us as mothers. We have nothing to be ashamed of for nursing our babies in public. If God wanted us to use formula and bottles He would have created us with plastic bottles on our chests and formula pumps somewhere on our bodies! He gave us what He knows is best.


  6. Just do it confidently. If you are nervous and self conscious you will attract more attention to yourself. just do it. most people will not even notice.


  7. Hi. Sorry for the one word post a moment ago. Just wanted to quickly comment on this issue. I carry my darling blessing in a sling and I take her out of the sling but use the sling to cover my midsection when I nurse in public. I let my “pull up” shirt go all the way to her mouth and she covers the rest. I have even nursed in front of VERY religious people this way. The important thing is to make eye contact and just continue on the conversation and try to be relaxed. After a while, it will start to feel more normal.

    Also, found a tank top shirt at the GoodWill, which I hear is also at target. It’s basically a nursing tanktop with a bra built inside. Even for a rather big chested mamma like myself, it works…just layer it with a more modest shirt and then you can pull up the overshirt and unhook the nursing tank, but the tank is covering the belly and everything beneith the breast. The “pull up” shirt you are wearing over it will cover the top half. Very modest and NO annoying blankets over baby’s head (My babe used to just pull it off her head!) Good luck and blessings to you.


  8. Thank you for your comments. I love the nursing tanks. I also finally bought a few nursing shirts. I just got a sling last week and I have been trying to get the hang of it. I really do think that making eye contact is the key… I just need to practice so I feel comfortable.


  9. It helps if you can have an actual person show you how to do it. I just use my regular clothes, I hold the babies head/body with the hand/arm on the same side that I am nursing on. Then I lift my shirt with the other hand (helps to get everything unhooked and open first, under cover of your shirt before getting baby in place) then lift it up just enough for the baby to latch on and keep my hand on the shirt dropped over his face. If he suddenly pulls away I just drop the shirt, instantly covering up. Mine never liked their heads covered, so this has worked for me, but I had to practice a lot in private before I felt comfortable enough to do it in public. I hope that helps some. Let me know if you need more info. ๐Ÿ™‚


  10. Well, I’ve gotta finish feeding the baby and then get dinner started… we are having breakfast for dinner…mmmm one of my faves!


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